Start gently
Start with needs, not a conclusion. Note what your child finds difficult and what they say helps. These observations cannot tell you whether they are autistic or have ADHD.
Choose one small change
Ask school what changes are possible now: clearer instructions, a quieter arrival or a named adult. Arrangements differ, so agree one small step and a review date.
Notice what fits
Keep a brief record of everyday situations, with your child’s perspective where possible. Share only what is relevant and comfortable.
Ask for support
Choose one small family skill each week, rather than trying to change everything while you wait. If needs increase, seek individual advice rather than waiting silently.
References and further reading
These sources inform the ideas; they do not validate this Hearth sequence or predict an individual outcome.
Hearth offers wellbeing self-help, not medical care or a crisis service. These ideas are not an assessment and cannot predict what will work for your child.
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